Sometimes when we look in the mirror we see ourselves looking just like our parents or we catch ourselves acting just like one of them. But at other times not.
How can both be true? There is a clue in this week's Torah portion, Naso. The Torah describes in repetitive detail the nature of each tribe's offering for the dedication of the wilderness altar.
The Torah is repetitive and seemingly redundant in that each tribe's offering included the same things - measure for measure - as the other tribes. There seems to be a lesson in Torah abandoning its typically efficient language to repeat the list of offering materials twelve times instead of just once.
One lesson may be that even one's actions that look identical to another person's actions, could be different if one person's motivation animating those actions are different from another person's. In other words, conduct animated by one motivation is different than the same conduct if animated by another motivation.
Another lesson may be that things that look the same are often different. The Jewish tradition recognizes the power of individual motivations to transform actions. For example, Proverbs 22:6 teaches, "Teach a student according to his